The Crow's Eye

"...it's not the training to be mean but the training to be kind that is used to keep us leashed best." ~ Black Dog Red

"In case you haven't recognized the trend: it proceeds action, dissent, speech." ~ davidly, on how wars get done

"...What sort of meager, unerotic existence must a man live to find himself moved to such ecstatic heights by the mundane sniping of a congressional budget fight. The fate of human existence does not hang in the balance. The gods are not arrayed on either side. Poseiden, earth-shaker, has regrettably set his sights on the poor fishermen of northern Japan and not on Washington, D.C. where his ire might do some good--I can think of no better spot for a little wetland reclamation project, if you know what I mean. The fight is neither revolution nor apocalypse; it is hardly even a fight. A lot of apparatchiks are moving a lot of phony numbers with more zeros than a century of soccer scores around, weaving a brittle chrysalis around a gross worm that, some time hence, will emerge, untransformed, still a worm." ~ IOZ

Feb 14, 2011

So much wrong with this:

Why You're Not Married

I'd rather do two weeks of ignored laundry.* Yep, that's what I'm going to do instead of going after yet one more piece of AOLHuffington wankery.

* - My wife rocks. I was an asshole yesterday. We had the day alone, and I blew it. My cousin is in from Saudi Arabia, and our kids were sledding with hers. Instead of any other possible combination of emotional states, I woke up grumpy and ornery. After she put me in my place we played some video game boxing. She knocked my 'toon out five or six times in a row.

I'm doing laundry today.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...: Tracy McMillan's manifesto for men, to make them more compliant?

Huff Puff Blowyourhousedown Post!

Yeah, I'm still single because I don't think like Tracy wants me to think. I need to change. She doesn't. I do.; February 14, 2011 at 11:54 AM
fish said...: Wow, that article was a horror show. More disturbing still was the number of comments on how great an article it was.

Like I am taking marriage advice from someone who was married 3 times already by the age of 40...; February 14, 2011 at 12:21 PM
Jack Crow said...: It's was cruel of me to link to it.; February 14, 2011 at 12:24 PM
Richard said...: The article becomes a lot more enjoyable if you consider it as something specifically directed towards Arianna.; February 14, 2011 at 3:42 PM
Jack Crow said...: Ha! That was funny.; February 14, 2011 at 4:23 PM

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This one took a while to put into words.

I don't kid myself that I've stumbled upon a unique insight and I have little doubt that someone has already written or said this better than I. Five minutes after I hit the "publish" button, I'll probably regret the choice of words more than I already do now - because it's difficult to get my head outside of English language usage, to comment on a problem with that usage, whilst using the English language to do so.

In the interest of not making more of an ass of myself than necessary, I've pared a very long thesis down to a paragraph:

I find it troubling that, using English, I have very limited choice in expressing how I relate to people with whom I have ongoing interaction. If I want to reference the nature of my relations with the woman who has challenged me to grow in ways I never imagined possible, the woman who howled with a primal, gorgeous, earth shattering, mother bear of a refrain, transcending pain and pleasure in act of creation to which I will never be immediate party, who has with her defiant and proud womanhood still intact forged a family out of disparate parts - I have to write "my wife." I have to reduce her to property. That really pisses me off. I don't own her. I don't fucking want the title or the claim. I don't want to express possession, simply to refer to her (without writing a discursive dissertation). I don't like one bit that the short hand for "association" in English is expressed in the possessive. I don't own my wife or my children. They're not mine.

So, fuck you Latin and Germanic branches of the Indo-European language group.

That is all.